Gay Mormon - The Truth About Mormons and the Gay Marriage Battle

Of all the numbers in the Pew Research Center’s recently released survey of “Mormons in America,” the highest, most overwhelming numbers are these: 98 percent of respondents said they believe in the Resurrection of Jesus Christ, and 97 percent say their church is a Christian religion.

This comes on the heels of earlier surveys indicating that 32 percent of non-LDS U.S. adults say the LDS Church is not a Christian religion, and an additional 17 percent are unsure of LDS Christianity. The theological and semantic reasons for this can be complex, but for the 1,019 self-identified Mormons who participated in the Pew survey, their theological position is clear: Mormons believe in Jesus Christ, and they consider themselves to be Christian.

“Certainly in Latter-day Saint theology is this idea that if you understand who you are, you understand that there’s a purpose in life, you understand your connection to God, that certainly has an impact on how you live your life and what you do, but also how you feel about your life and what you are doing,” said Michael Purdy of the LDS Church Public Affairs office. Read the rest of this entry »

By Amy Choate-Nielsen

Deseret News
Published: Sunday, Jan. 15, 2012 7:00 p.m. MST

David Letterman knows how to get a laugh.Like most comics, he riffs on the day’s news, deadpans the camera and revels in audacity.”Oh, did you hear about this?” the host of CBS’ Late Show with David Letterman asked his audience recently. “A campaign staffer on the Newt Gingrich campaign was fired because he was making negative comments about Mormons. I thought, now, wait a minute — isn’t Newt in favor of multiple wives?”
Laughter rumbled from the audience followed by applause. The polygamy punch line is a familiar one when it comes to poking fun at Mormons — as though Mormons and polygamy are synonymous in mainstream media. Ironically, the practice that’s most linked to Mormons is a practice most Mormons oppose, according to a groundbreaking new study of Mormons in America released Thursday by the Pew Research Center‘s Forum on Religion and Public Life.

According to the study, members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints unequivocally reject polygamy — only 2 percent said the practice is morally acceptable — evidence of a yawning gap in what Mormons believe and how they are perceived. Mormons’ opinions are overwhelmingly conservative, the study shows, but in many ways, their views are also surprising — especially when it comes to opinions on moral issues, divorce, homosexuality and polygamy. Read the rest of this entry »

A recent The Pew Research Center‘s Forum on Religion and Public Life conducted an in-depth survey of Mormons in the United States. Mormon is a nickname sometimes used to describe members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The fourth article in a series that appears in Deseret News is evaluating the results of this survey and providing context for the results.

Immigration is a controversial topic in the United States. The survey asked one question on this topic. They were asked which of two statements most closely matched their view, even if they didn’t completely agree. They were asked whether immigrants strengthen or burden the nation. No distinction was made between legal and illegal immigration, leaving those polled to decide for themselves what the question meant.

In the general U.S. population, 45 percent of Americans feel that immigrants strengthen the country, while 44 percent burden it. 12 percent feel that neither or both are true or they have no opinion on the subject. Mormon views closely mirror these statistics. 45 percent of Mormons also believe immigrants strengthen the nation, although a smaller number, 41 percent, consider them a burden on society. The number of Mormons who accept both or neither or who have no opinion is higher, at 14 percent.

These numbers put them at odds with evangelical Christians, one of the few political areas in which they disagree. Within the white evangelical population, 59 percent believe immigrants are a burden, and 27 percent believe they strengthen the country. Like Mormons, 14 percent answered both, neither, or no opinion.

The statistics for Mormons shows a strong divide based on age, income, and education, as well as on religious commitment. Only 36 percent of highly committed Mormons see immigrants as a burden, while 50 percent of those who are less committed see them as a burden. This largely correlates with economic status. 84 percent of Mormons who are highly committed to their religion are college graduates. (The church strongly encourages Read the rest of this entry »

SMITHFIELD — After dinner, three baths, four bedtime stories and a half-a-dozen goodnight kisses for 2-year-old twins Brock and Isaac and 6-year-old Ellie, Erin and Brian Thompson finally sink into the couch with weary smiles.

Being parents is just what they always wanted. And they love it.

“Of course we have our crazy moments,” Thompson says, “but for the most part we just try to find the good things in the day and remember that they’re only going to be little for so long.”

As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, the Thompsons believe that maintaining a strong marriage and raising and teaching children are essential keys to happiness and their most important responsibilities on earth.

In fact, 81 percent of Mormons say being a good parent is “one of the most important things in life,” according to a new survey by the Pew Research Center‘s Forum on Religion & Public Life — the first survey of Mormons about Mormons, by a non-LDS research organization.

The survey of more than 1,000 self-identified Latter-day Saints from across the country asked how accepted Mormons feel in American culture, as well as their thoughts on religious practices, political issues and family roles.

The survey showed that Mormons are more likely to be married than the general population, 67 percent of the sample size compared to 52 percent of the general public. Read the rest of this entry »

As the “Mormon moment” extends into 2012, the Pew Research Center’s Forum on Religion & Public Life today released a groundbreaking new survey, the first ever published by a non-LDS research organization to focus exclusively on members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and their beliefs, values, perceptions and political preferences.

Entitled “Mormons in America: Certain in Their Beliefs, Uncertain of Their Place in Society,” the survey was conducted between Oct. 25 and Nov. 16, 2011 among a national sample of 1,019 respondents who identified themselves as Mormons. The results validate a number of long-held stereotypes (most American Mormons are white, well-educated, politically conservative and religiously observant) while providing a few interesting surprises (care for the poor and needy is high on the list of LDS priorities, while drinking coffee and watching R-rated movies aren’t as taboo among the rank and file as you might think).

“While this survey comes amid a contentious election campaign, it is not solely or even chiefly about politics,” said Luis Lugo, Pew Research Center director, in the published survey’s preface. “Rather, we hope that it will contribute to a broader public understanding of Mormons and Mormonism at a time of great interest in both.”

For example, in one very interesting section of the new survey, respondents were asked several questions about what is essential to being a good Mormon. According to the survey, 80 percent said “believing Joseph Smith saw God the Father and Jesus Christ” is essential to being a good Mormon, 73 percent said “working to help the poor,” 51 percent said “regular Family Home Evenings,” 49 percent said “not drinking coffee and tea” and 32 percent said “not watching R-rated movies. Read the rest of this entry »

This article is adapted from D. Lauritsen, Mormons Under a Microscope, Cedar Fort, Inc. Springville, Utah, 2010, pp. 21, 22.

Mormon Beliefs on Homosexuality

Referring to individuals who have same-sex attraction, late President and Prophet of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Gordon B. Hinckley stated,

“We love them as sons and daughters of God. They may have certain inclinations which are powerful and which may be difficult to control. If they do not act upon these inclinations, then they can go forward as do all other members of the Church.”1

Elaborating on President Hinckley’s statement (above), Elder Dallin Oaks, Mormon apostle, said:

To me that means that a person with [same-gender] inclinations, where they’re kept under control, or if yielded to, are appropriately repented of, is eligible to do anything in the Church that can be done by any member of the Church who is single. Occasionally, there’s an office, like the office of bishop, where a person must be married. But that’s rather the exception in the Church. Every teaching position, every missionary position can be held by single people. We welcome to that kind of service people who are struggling with any kind of temptation when the struggle is a good struggle and they are living so as to be appropriate teachers, or missionaries, or whatever the calling may be.

There is another point to add here, and this comes from a recent statement of the First Presidency, which is a wonderful description of [the Church’s] attitude in this matter:

“We of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints reach out with understanding and respect for individuals who are attracted to those of the same gender. We realize there may be great loneliness in their lives, but there must also be recognition of what is right before the Lord. . . . We encourage Church leaders and members to reach out with love and understanding to those struggling with these issues.  Surely if we are counseled as a body of Church mem- bership to reach out with love and understanding to those ‘struggling with these issues,’ that obligation rests with particular intensity on parents who have children struggling with these issues.”2

Mormon Beliefs on Same-sex Marriage

Regarding the issue of same-sex marriage, the LDS Church published an extensive explanation of its position under the title “The Divine Institution of Marriage,” which appeared in the August 13, 2008 edition of News room, the official outlet for the Church’s Internet news service (which can be accessed at www.newsroom.lds.org). In part, the news release stated:

The focus of the Church’s involvement [in supporting the passage of California’s Proposition 8] is specifically same-sex marriage and its consequences. The Church does not object to rights (already established in California) regarding hospitalization and medical care, fair housing and employment rights, or probate rights, so long as these do not infringe on the integrity of the family or the constitutional rights of churches and their adherents to administer and practice their religion free from government interference.

The Church has a single, undeviating standard of sexual morality: intimate relations are proper only between a husband and a wife united in the bonds of matrimony.

The Church’s opposition to same-sex marriage neither consti- tutes nor condones any kind of hostility toward homosexual men and women. Protecting marriage between a man and a woman does not affect Church members’ Christian obligations of love, kindness, and humanity toward all people.3

Notes

1. Gordon B. Hinckley, as quoted by Dallin H. Oaks of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, www.lds.org/ldsnewsroom

2. Ibid.

3. “The Divine Institution of Marriage,” The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, www.lds.org/ldsnewsroom.

Additional Resources

Mormon Beliefs: Homosexuality

Discussions on Threats to Traditional Marriage

Evergreen International

The Meaning of Life

Mormon Families

This article is taken from a talk given by Elder Bruce C. Hafen.  He was addressing an Evergreen International conference.  To see the full transcript of Elder Hafen’s talk, including his references, click here.

As difficult as same-gender attraction is, feeling that attraction does not mean that a person is flawed, either temporarily or permanently.  “Whenever the adversary tries to convince you that you are hopelessly ‘that way,’ so that acting out your feelings is inevitable, he is lying. He is the father of lies.”

Some may wonder whether even Christ can sympathize or empathize with this kind of trial.  Elder Neal A. Maxwell has reminded us that Christ descended below all things, and that by doing so, He “earned empathy.” He knows that every day may feel like a major battle for you.  The General Authorities of the Church remind all that the Lord judges us according the degree of our knowledge and the difficulty of our earthly trials.  Elder Maxwell compared this to Olympic diving.  The judges decide not only on the execution of a dive, but they also weigh the difficulty of the dive.  Thus, it could be said that no two people are judged the same by the Lord.  He not only knows our capacities, talents, and trials, but also our personalities thoroughly.  For many, life is ”being made much harder these days by the increasing cultural confusion that now swirls around the topic of homosexuality.”

We must understand that gender was never intended to be a gray area.  We had a specific male or female gender in the Pre-Mortal existence, and since families are intended to continue forever, we will have specific male or female gender and attractions in the eternities.

The Law of Chastity is unchanging, and that is why church policy will never change.  The Lord has revealed through His prophets, both ancient and modern, that sexual behavior outside the bonds of marriage between a male and female is wickedness.  This includes heterosexual behavior as well as homosexual behavior.  “While same-gender attraction is not a sin, you need to resist cultivating immoral, lustful thoughts toward those of either gender.  It’s no sin if a bird lands in your tree, just don’t let him build a nest there.  No temptation is so strong that you can’t resist it, unless you have already given away some portion of your agency to a total addiction.”

“Focus on all the good things you may have put on hold—your education, career plans, social experience, and Church service. Stop focusing so much on yourself, including hating yourself, and spend more energy caring about other people.  Build good associations with people of your own gender.  Find a therapist who can help you identify the unmet emotional needs that you are tempted to satisfy in false sexual ways.”

“If you have engaged in immoral behavior, you need to repent fully by confessing your sins and forsaking them.  These actions unlock the door to the Savior’s mercy, which allows your complete forgiveness.  But if you feel an attraction you didn’t seek and haven’t acted on, you have nothing to repent of.  The Atonement can heal us not only from sin, but also from carelessness, imperfection, and all mortal bitterness — intended and unintended.

“The blessings of the Atonement include its healing and compensating power when one has been separated from God by sin, by unintentional mistakes, or simply by adversity.  I classify same-gender attraction within the category of ‘adversity,’ because typically you haven’t brought it upon yourselves.  It has consequences similar to being harmed by the sins of others, such as the separation from God felt so commonly by the victims of childhood sexual abuse.”

“To those challenged by same-gender attraction, the Atonement offers two healing blessings. First, Christ helps us draw on His strength to become more “at-one” with God even while still overcoming the attraction.  He helps us bear the burden of our afflictions.  As a second healing blessing, the Atonement enables the grace that assures us of this grand promise: No eternal blessing—including marriage and family life—will be withheld from those who suffer same-gender attraction, if they do ‘all they can do’ to remain faithful always.”

Some Historical Background of the Gay Movement

“Today’s cultural and legal climate is making your challenge much harder than it would otherwise be.”  Elder Hafen began teaching family law in the early 1970’s, when civil rights movements were pressing forward for equality.  “During that period, almost no one considered people with homosexual attraction as a distinctive demographic group (like race or gender) who were the victims of discrimination.  The main legal goal of gay activists then was to eliminate criminal penalties against homosexual acts, as a first step toward their goal of greater public acceptance.”  These laws, though rarely enforced, were considered constitutional until 2003.  In the 1970’s both legalists and doctors viewed homosexuality as a psychological disorder.  As recently as 1982, the mayor of San Francisco vetoed a bill that would have allowed spousal rights to both straight and gay couples.  “No country anywhere in the world recognized gay marriage until 2001, eight years ago.  Since then, a few countries and six U.S. states now recognize same-gender marriages.”

In 1973 the American Psychiatric and Psychological Associations removed homosexuality from their official lists of disorders.  This was done by vote, the first time a definition was changed due to social pressure rather than advances in science.

Science and Homosexuality

Recently, “the activists have used similar methods in the years since then, trying to prove that they are a legitimate demographic category with fixed and unchangeable characteristics.  They must present themselves in this way in order to justify their demand for the same legal protections now given to race and gender. That is a crucial point in understanding both the agenda and the tactics of intimidation used by today’s activists.”  Said Dallin H. Oaks:

“We have seen unrelenting pressure from advocates of [the homosexual] lifestyle to accept as normal what is not normal, and to characterize those who disagree with them as narrow-minded, bigoted and unreasonable.  Such advocates are quick to demand freedom of speech and thought for themselves, but equally quick to criticize those with a different view and, if possible, to silence them by applying labels like ‘homophobic.’… This is more than a social issue — ultimately it may be a test of our most basic religious freedoms to teach what we know our Father in Heaven wants us to teach.”

There are four misconceptions about homosexuality that can make it more difficult for those who desire to overcome their same-sex attraction.

1. “Same-gender attraction is an inborn and unalterable orientation.  This untrue assumption tries to persuade you to label yourselves and build your entire identity around a fixed sexual orientation or condition.”  In truth, “there is simply no scientific consensus about what causes homosexual tendencies.”  The American Psychological Association has said that “no findings have emerged that permit scientists to conclude that sexual orientation is determined by any factor or set of factors. … Nature and nurture both play complex roles.” The possibility that homosexuality is genetically caused has been dismissed by science.  80% of women who have same-gender attraction were abused in some way as children.  Among men, some who have had certain experiences just before puberty have taken on a gay identity.  “Often these boys are emotionally sensitive, introspective, and, especially among Church members, perfectionistic.”  Their transition from relating to other boys to relating instead to girls is blocked, and this can be helped through proper counseling.
2. “A second misconception the activists promote is that therapy cannot treat, let alone change, same-gender attraction.”  This misperception is related to the first.  If a person believes no change is possible, he only has two choices: to either give in, or give up.  “In general, well over half of those seeking treatment can be significantly helped by it.  That is roughly the same success rate as treatments for clinical depression. One non-LDS therapist who has treated both men and women for years reports that 40% of his clients find full heterosexual resolution, another 40% achieve enough resolution to control their attraction and behavior, and 20% are unsuccessful.”
3. “The third misconception is that most Americans favor same-gender marriage, which means the Church is outside the mainstream in opposing it.”  The truth is that “six American states now permit same-gender marriage. But 40 states have already passed laws opposing such marriages.  And the most recent national polls reinforce that large majority opinion, despite some modest recent gains by the activists.”  Recent random polls still show that a strong majority of U.S. citizens are not in favor of gay marriage.
4. “The fourth misconception is that there are no rational, non-religious reasons for opposing same-gender marriage.  Marriage is our most significant social institution — not merely a private project. This ‘public interest’ or ’social interest’ separates the marriage contract from every other contract in society.  The research clearly shows that, by every measure of child well-being — such as health, emotional stability, education, and avoiding crime, drugs, and abuse — children do far better in a two-parent, married heterosexual family.    The contrast between adult rights and the rights of society and children introduces the most persuasive example I have seen of the secular case against same-gender marriage.”  The French parliament performed a thorough study of gay marriage before banning it, deciding that society would only benefit by disallowing the desires of the adult population to trump the basic needs of children.  “The French report said that to accept a public policy that consciously places children with homosexual adults increases the risks to children who are already at risk because they feel identity confusion and abandonment by their biological parents. To ignore this need is to discriminate against these children.  So France rejected same-gender marriage so that children ‘do not suffer as a result of situations imposed on them by adults.  The interest of the child must outweigh the exercise of freedom by adults, whatever life choices are made by the parents.’  This view takes marriage away from the private, adults-only world of gay and lesbian lifestyles and returns it to its original place as society’s primary social institution.”

“An LDS medical doctor who has worked closely with many people who deal with same-gender attraction recently said to me, ‘This is a truly difficult problem, but in its very difficulty is something that allows those who meet the challenge to become amazingly purified and sanctified and thus qualified for special comfort and revelation from the Savior, who knows how to succor ‘all’ men and women in their infirmities.’  His words prompted a memory of Elder Maxwell’s insight: ‘If we are serious about our discipleship, Jesus will eventually request each of us to do those very things which are [the] most difficult to do.’  The apostle Paul wrote, ‘All things work together for good to them that love God’ (Romans 8:28). Even same-gender attraction can work for your good IF you  love God.”

Imagine moving to a new city where you don’t know anyone and discovering four people have been asked to look after you-showing you how to find things, making sure you’re invited to the important and fun things that are happening, checking to see if you need any help with anything.

This is how it is for Mormons. Each member of the church is assigned a pair of home teachers, and each woman also receives two visiting teachers as well. This special program makes sure everyone is looked after, even if their congregation is very large. The bishop (similar to a pastor) is a volunteer, and so can’t get to everyone. This program is designed to help.

Home teachers are always men, since they are members of the priesthood. A young man is first invited to become a home teacher at the age of fourteen, paired with an adult, usually his father. In ideal situations, each family is assigned two home teachers, who visit the home together, meeting with the entire family. They teach a brief spiritual lesson on an assigned topic unless the family has a special request for a particular topic. They also spend time getting to know the family, particularly the husband, building a relationship of trust so the family will feel safe turning to them in times of need.

When a Mormon faces a crisis or need, he turns first to his home teachers, whether it’s for help moving, or something more serious, such as unemployment. The home teachers do what they can for the family, and refer the problem to their leaders when it is more than they can or should take on themselves. Being a father is an overwhelming experience and it is comforting to know where you can turn for help.

Women receive additional connections through their two visiting teachers. All visiting teachers are at least eighteen years old, since they must be members of the Relief Society, the adult women’s auxiliary. Like the men, they visit the home monthly, but only visit the adult women in the home. They work to build a true friendship with the women they visit, and stay alert to signs the woman may need a meal brought in during illness, a plate of cookies on a bad day, or even a babysitter for a doctor’s appointment. It’s considered an honor to be able to serve those women the visiting teachers visit.

This program actually creates a network of relationships, since the home and visiting teachers usually have two to four families they see, including those who are not active, and therefore not participating as home or visiting teachers. As a result, a women will develop a friendship with her own two visiting teachers, and as many as four other women she herself visits, and in addition, builds a friendship with her visiting teaching companion-the person she visits with. For a person who is new, this is an instantly large network of friends.

The program also benefits the elderly or disabled who can’t leave their homes and may not have family nearby. It creates a safety net, as home and visiting teachers often check on these people daily to be sure they are okay. In addition to safety, they have friends who come to see them often, which helps to stem the loneliness of being unable to leave home.

Home and visiting teaching is an inspired program which brings comfort, safety and connectability to a congregation with many members.

In times of economic crisis, one of the early news stories we hear is that food banks run out of food. It’s important, for that reason, for churches to take care of their own people, leaving the food banks to care for those who have nowhere else to turn.

          Mormons are especially dedicated to this process. While Mormons are counseled to build up food storage, live simply, and avoid debt, there comes a time in most lives where extra help is needed. When this happens, and family can’t help, the church steps in.

One way they do this is through bishop’s storehouses. The storehouse is like a small grocery store, with food stacked neatly on shelves around the room. However, there isn’t a cash register because the food cannot be purchased. It is given to Mormons having temporary food needs.

A Mormon in need goes to his bishop(clerical leader) to discuss the problem and what the member has done to try to resolve the problem alone. They might also be asked to bring in their budget and income, to show they need the help. The bishop then decides if they qualify for assistance. The Relief Society  president (head of the women’s auxiliary) may also pay a visit to the wife to decide what assistance is needed. The family prepares two week’s worth of menus and then receives a signed order form to take with them. They present it to the storehouse, where volunteers assist them in filling the order. The order is then checked against the items selected and the church member leaves without paying.

This is different from a regular food bank. It includes many types of items needed-food, cleaning supplies, baby care and personal hygiene products. The non-perishables are available each week, produced by the church or purchased, so the supply is consistent. A careful family can possibly avoid shopping at all, whereas those who frequent a food bank get a selection chosen by someone else and is usually not enough to last until they can return.

How are the Mormons able to provide such a service? First, because the service is normally only available to members, they can provide more for each person. The way the program is paid for is also unique. Mormons are asked to go without food or drink of any kind, even water, for twenty-four hours the first Sunday of each month. This causes them to skip two meals, since they usually start right after lunch and then have lunch the next day at the end of the fast. They then donate at least the amount they saved by doing this to a special fund called a fast offering. This money is used entirely to care for those in need.

This means that when a member needs help, he or she is using a service he has helped to fund in the past. It’s members taking care of each other. In addition, the process helps those who are paying into the fund. By being hungry for a day, they have a small portion of understanding of what it might mean to be hungry all the time. They have sacrificed to help another person, but haven’t gone any further into their budgets to do this, since they didn’t use any food that day.

Surplus foods are generally donated to community food banks.

The storehouse is meant as a temporary measure, to allow people the comfort of eating well as they get back on their feet and learn how to escape poverty. Other church resources help members learn the skills needed to escape poverty and become self-sufficient.

No one but Jesus Christ has ever lived a sinless life on earth. However, the Bible makes it very clear we must keep the commandments in order to return to God’s presence. Because He is fair and loving, and wants us to return, He has created a way for us to return to God’s presence without being perfect. He sent His Son, Jesus Christ, who came voluntarily, to atone for our sins in the Garden of Gethsemane and then to die for us. Through grace, given to us as part of the atonement, all people can be resurrected and live forever, and have the ability to repent and to be forgiven for their sins. Through the atonement, people can also become worthy of a place in God’s kingdom by keeping the commandments for the right reason-their deep love for God.

Repentance is a critical part of God’s plan. He, like any good parent, expects His children to do their part in fulfilling their responsibilities on earth. While Jesus’ atonement made complete forgiveness possible, we must take responsibility for our actions and repent for the mistakes we made. This is true in life, and in eternity. Responsible people take responsibility for their actions.

Repentance is an ongoing process. Although someone who is joining the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (sometimes known as Mormons) goes through a repentance process and is baptized to receive forgiveness of his sins, he is not going to be perfect from that moment on. Nor is he then given a free pass to go ahead and sin. Mormons are expected to do the best they can to live a good life, but God understands we aren’t perfect. When mistakes happen, repentance is the way God provided for us to resolve them.

The person who has sinned must first recognize his sin and have true sorrow for them. This process must be sincere and difficult, involving the heart and the mind, both. Going through the motions does not satisfy the demands of justice.

Next, the person must make retribution as far as possible. He needs to ask forgiveness of those he’s hurt and try to fix whatever damage he has caused. This might include returning a stolen item, paying for something damaged, making a special effort to be kind to a child after a parent has lost his temper, or paying the fine without complaint after breaking a traffic law. If he can’t undo the damage, he must find another way to repay the person he’s hurt.

Once the person has made things right with his fellow man, he must make things right with God. He must ask God’s forgiveness and take whatever steps are needed to get his spiritual life back in order-perhaps realizing he needs to spend more time in prayer or scripture study, or more time in serving others.

Finally he must do, as the Savior told the woman who was about to be stoned for sin, go forth and sin no more. He must forsake that particular sin forever. This is the true test of whether or not the person really was repentant. If he can easily return to the sin, his sorrow and his love for God were not yet enough to help him overcome his mortal weaknesses. He will continue to work to develop self-control and to improve his relationship with God and then start the process again, as many times as it takes to completely forsake the sin.

In this way, we work step by step toward becoming more like our Father in Heaven. We were created in His image, and every day we work to become more like Him.